Find a lifestyle before finding a job.

Today has got me thinking after my recent posts…

“Where do you want to be in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, 25 years?” and I would rather jump on lego pieces than answer that question.

It’s sad that people think that your career is the most important thing in your life and that your career defines you.

Whilst, don’t get me wrong career is important because work brings you money, and well, we need money to live a stable life.

However, for me – the type of lifestyle I live is more important than just a job that I go to, to make money.

DON’T CALL ME CRAZY! I understand jobs are important, we need food, we need water and a shelter over our heads and thats what work can provide for us and I applaud those who go out there and challenge themselves with their work and without money – we have nothing, and yes, I do want to travel more, I want a nice house, I want a nice car and blah blah blah

The point of this is that, nowadays there is not enough priority given, or importance on the beautiful parts of life – family, travelling, hobbies, friends, and creating experiences. I don’t want to spend my life working away in an office and missing out on the most important parts.


well, well, well, the answer to that question we need to make sure we have jobs that allow us to do that. 

That may be hard to understand – but at this point, I am thinking about what type of life i’m going to live in the future, what life I want to give my husband and children.

I want to do work that excites me and inspires me, but I also want to go home and live a fulfilling life outside of work.

At some point, I will have kids and I want to spend time and play with them, I want to travel with my husband and them, I want to have time to cook and go to the gym, and binge watch reality TV.

“But Elissa, it’s so easy to say that but hard to do that”

Well…..only if you let it be that hard. All we really have to do is take the time to think about the lifestyle we want to lead, then focus on finding a job that will allow you to lead that lifestyle. THATS IT!

Look at the position you want to be in, now look at those people IN that position and the lifestyle they have. If you want that – Go for it! But if you don’t then think about your career decisions.

I would rather have an amazing life than an amazing job. 

Do you think i’m crazy when I say that? or less ambitious?

I think it makes me more ambitious to reach it.

I want more than a job that I come home from and I have no energy to live my life and spend time with my family.

Believe me, I will have that.


A couple of days ago I was listening to a Tony Robbins Podcast – I keep a notebook of all the podcasts that I listen to and take down notes on what I learn from them. I find this is an important ritual in my life and it helps me become a better person.

This particular podcast I was listening to, Tony Robbins discusses the magic to changing the way you think.




Read and listen to the people who have changed their lives and achieved success. The saying goes ‘YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT’. If you think about it like that… we could also say ‘YOU ARE WHAT YOU READ’. Fill your mind with knowledge on any topic that you doubt yourself on and take control of that focus


DO NOT let your own fear take you over. Fear tends to be a physical experience, I know when I am fearful I keep my head down, clench my palms and sometimes even start sweating (don’t judge we ALL do it) and all of this is a physical change taking place in my body. Tony discusses how the best way to deal with something physical is to GET physical! get into the gym and do that workout or run until you feel like your heart is going to burst out of your chest, get your hour of power and train your body and mind to be STRONG!


Get an inspiring role model, believe and know that there is a pathway for you! Maybe for you, you need to get an opposite role model. If you think you are really struggling and your life is so tough – get yourself a role model who has been through the worst of the worst and come out of it even better! Remember: IF THERE IS A WILL, THERES A WAY.


Find your plan of action and do it!  PROGRESS = HAPPINESS


The most important one! Strengthen your spirit. Find what you are grateful for and take that time, take in a moment to feel how blessed you are in your life – rejuvenate yourself, give back to someone else who is worst off than you are.

People forget that life is not only about getting, getting, getting but also giving.


Click here to check out the Tony Robbins podcast! You won’t regret it!

Let me know what you think in the comments below!!



A bit about me

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Here I am at 21 years old, sitting in my office at work in which I am definitely supposed to be doing work at, but I am lost.

These past 9 months of 2018, I have learnt a lot, from falling in love with the most amazing man, to leaving the nest for the first time and leaving my university degree for a month to travel across Europe, I sit here today after constant pondering of ‘what the hell am I doing?! and What the hell am I going to do with my life?’

For all our schooling years, we dread waking up early in the morning to spend a whole day at school where we are taught that after you finish high school you will magically know all the answers in the world and what you are going to become and well at least for me it didn’t end up working out like that.

Last night I cried to my boyfriend because I honestly have no idea what I am doing and I don’t wan’t to seem like a disappointment, and this morning on my way to this office where I sit every day, I cried on the phone to my mum because again, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I’M DOING, I don’t know where my strengths are, I don’t know what I excel at but what I do know is that I like talking, and writing, and going to the gym and I do know that I want to be something BIG one day….but i’m really struggling to find what that is.

I also know that I have stuffed up in the past and made mistakes but every day I come to this office and no it is not the worst place in the world, and I am thankful to work here, but one thing I am certain on is that I look around this office and see tonnes of lifeless faces and individuals with no love and excitement in their life and in my life, I aim to do everything with love….after all, I do have that quote tattooed my body!

My wish is that this blog assists every other girl and guy out there who also has no idea what is going on, those that are working those full time jobs just because it pays your bills but you feel like your going no where and you don’t even enjoy what you are doing!

Life is too short to not enjoy it.

I am just a young girl trying to navigate my way through this thing called life and I know that a lot of other people are too.

So for all of you who are going through the ‘What the hell do I want to do with myself’ stage, I hope this helps you

Thank you for taking the time to read this and welcome to LostMillennial

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