THE IMPORTANCE OF SLOWING DOWN

Last week, Will and I had a conversation about slowing down.

Lately, we have just been going going going and expecting so much from ourselves and each other.

Expecting to be in a better position in life

Expecting to have more savings

Expecting to have assets

Expecting to go to the gym and workout

Expecting to have a better job

Expecting to be fulfilled in every aspect of life

I am 21 and Will is 23 – at the age it’s only normal to expect yourself and your partner to be in so and so position.

We expect TOO much for ourselves

We work too hard, we stress too much, and we are not enjoying life.

I always talk about how to be present and in the moment and in all honesty – it’s hard! I have to make a conscious effort to be in the present moment because theres always expectations in the back of our mind

But how can we be fulfilled in life when we spend  50+ hours working?

Our priorities are SCREWED sometimes.

There is not such thing as perfection. When you think everything is perfect something comes up and screws you right up the butt. It’s up to you to find the perfection in what you do.

Relationships are not perfect – but it’s up to you to find and create the perfection in your relationship

Work is not perfect – but it’s up to you to create perfection by doing what you love

Life is not perfect! – but it’s up to you to create your own perfection in life

We live our lives thinking that nothing is wrong with the generic system of life – we think that the natural progression of humankind is to maximise efficiency, but if there is nothing wrong why are SO many people unhappy and filled with anxiety.

We are at a day and age where we burn with fury if our internet doesn’t load within 2 seconds, we are checking social media 25 times a day, we lose sleep over upcoming things.

We put pressure on ourselves because we have a certain expectation – get rid of the expectation and just live through it.

Our lives feels like a race because we compare ourselves to others, we look at others who are married, own a house or two, have kids, they are fit, they have their dream job.

Who says that’s what perfection is? Who says those people are happy? Who says this is security?

We are running a race that doesn’t exist.

What I learnt on the weekend is that certainty doesn’t exist – anything could happen at any point and we have to be prepared for pain to strike at anytime and if we are not prepared – we are going to fall flat on our ass.

By slowing down, quitting the race and lower our expectations – we are open to possibility, we are open to whatever gets thrown at us and we are prepared to deal with the seasons of life.