I had a bit of a meltdown last week because I faced the sad reality that I literally have no friends (haha, so sad)

I have acquaintances, but no one I can call and grab a coffee with, back in high school I had my best friend – who obviously wasn’t my ‘best’ friend because she upped and left once I wouldn’t drive her around anymore.

As we grow, the hardest thing to come to terms with is losing friends. Why though? maybe because we are so consumed with other parts of life like career, school, relationships, bills, houses, saving etc

It’s awkward sometimes because I can’t go advertise on social media “help me, I need friends” people are gonna think something is wrong with me!

No adult wants to admit that they have no friends! People are gonna wonder why you have no friends and I get anxiety sometimes when people say “Hey, you should go hang out with so and so” And I’m like “uhhh, no that’s so weird”  and look lets all be honest with ourselves here …. girls are bitches, is that controversial to say? maybe… oops. Does it make it any better to admit that even I am a bitch sometimes?

When I see groups of girls hanging out I can literally smell the fakeness between them, the judgey eyes and everything else that comes along with it.

Maybe, I struggle to make friends because I’m such an introvert, I get shy when I meet new people and internally crawl up into a ball because I hate small talk.

In all honesty, people are only friends in high school because they are literally forced to be with each other 5 days a week for 7 hours, once that is over – it is difficult, people don’t have the time anymore to actively look for friends plus its embarrassing

I don’t know, I am honestly okay with the fact that I have no friends because I actually enjoy being alone but it sucks because at my wedding, I won’t have  lines of bridesmaids and speeches, but i’m okay with that because at least at my wedding i’ll be surrounded by people who actually love me.

I don’t know, maybe one day i’ll be forced by my child to be friends with their friends mother – does that even make sense?

But until then…i’ll just be here trying to awkwardly make friends as an adult (woo hoo)


  1. This sounds completely horrible, but sometimes having no friends is kind of nice and refreshing. Don’t get me wrong, a lot of the time it gets lonely, but like SOMETIMES it’s just easier. I’m lucky enough to have kept a few really close friends from high school, we don’t talk all the time, but whenever we all make it back home we’re able to pick right back up where we left


  2. it is even harder to have adult friends when kids come into play. Everyone is too busy, too opinionated, too tired. I also think with age (I am now 44) that we value our time and energy. We can’t be bothered giving time to those who don’t value ours and in that comes a level of pickiness which really narrows our pool of friends. I have had many friends come and go but with age it is very clear who my friends are and who are not.

    My husband and I often struggle to find friends in the same position in life as us, who like the same things etc and it is really hard. But those friends we do have are solid. Busy maybe more than we like but always there when you need them and always the best time when we are together.

    Quality of friends is far more important than quantity.


  3. This is not exactly how I feel at the moment. I literally wrote a blog post about it. It’s so hard to make friendships as soon as you leave school etc. because everyone is busy trying to figure out what to do with their life’s..


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