Happy Hump Day!
If I am honest with myself – I have struggled in the past to find my emotional place. Especially getting into a relationship with a man who is very logical! I know he is reading this – I love you!
Anyway, I was listening to a podcast (what’s new?) and in this podcast the speaker was talking about how to find your emotional place within yourself and facing your fears. Believe it or not one of peoples biggest fears today is losing their job as your job affects your living conditions, relationships, your psychology, and your experiences.
Losing your job is a massive problem – until you find yourself losing your money, a loved one, your house, a leg, or getting a type of cancer. Once you have lost one of those things, losing a job is a small problem.
Just 8% of millennials believe that their future will be more financially secure than their parents….just 8%! that’s pretty upsetting in my opinion.
This is all because of fear, millennials are scared for the future, I mean, I am too but the difference between me and others is that others believe that their situations control their lives – and yes they do, but only to a minimal extent…it’s what you do about those situations that determine your life!
In order to make positive changes in your life or changes that will enhance your situation, you have to change your emotional pattern.
CHANGING YOUR EMOTIONAL PATTERNS:
- Identify where you live emotionally: do you identify with feeling overwhelmed, upset, guilty? There is no way you can change your life if that is how you identify emotionally.
- Once you find out where you are emotionally living: Find the solution, find the opposite. If frustration is where you live emotionally, happiness is the opposite.
- Practice the opposite, the emotion you would like to feel: don’t just practice it mentally, practice is physically! Emotion is created by the way we use our bodies. If you are frustrated you will clench your hands, clench your jaw, grind your teeth and if you are happy you will open your hands, relax your jaw and slightly open your mouth – so practice the behaviours of the emotion.
- Ask others what you do when you are feeling frustrated/happy or strong/fearful so you are away from an outsiders perspective and practice these actions 3 times a day
You may feel odd when standing up and relaxing your jaw on purpose or holding your head up high but trust me…it makes you feel powerful, and once you do this you will start to notice a new pattern in your body!
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Like you mentioned, people perceive their losses relative to what else is happening in their lives. I am proof of that. My concern had been getting through a work day; that is, until my mom passed suddenly nearly 2 years ago. Almost immediately, I started asking myself if I was reaching for my happiness and purpose in my life or if I was just getting by. Those questions lead me to start our blog and now to work on that full time. In fact, I refuse to spend another minute of my life doing things that don’t make me happy. Thanks for sharing an important topic.
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Yes we need to change how we react and how we get emotional. It’s also about the mindset. Train our mindset. Focus on what we can do. Great read!
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It can be very difficult but once you’ve made the decision to actively stay on top of it, it becomes habit!
Thankyou so much!!
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I’m logic driven and was always mistaken by others as being cold hearted.
It is important that we learn how to accept and process everything we feel. I was very much aware of who I was and quite alright with it. The older I get the more I experience emotion.
Thanks for sharing
Judy @sensibledove
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Thankyou for reading!
It’s important to have a balance of logic and emotion!
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Hey friend you wrote lovely you should the blog fear I want to face you on today’s youth this will really make you feel
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